Shawn-ation

How often have you heard someone say, “You hurt me with what you said,” or “she makes me happy,” or something to that effect? I think at some point all of us have made some similar comment or other during the course of our day. However, I think most of us actually believe what we say when we say things like this. Do we actually let other people control our emotions, and in turn control our lives? Is that the way that most of us would actually choose to live our lives, riding the waves of feelings like a ship tossed at sea? The truth is that we don’t have to.

Now, I know you are probably thinking, I know that other people don’t control how I feel. But I think if you break it down, you’d be surprised. Think about the last time you were in a serious relationship and split up. Say you were the one that was dumped. How did you feel? Happy? Probably not. At the least, you loafed around feeling sorry for yourself listening to sad songs on the radio thinking that they’d make you feel better. You probably lost your appetite and will to do things. That’s about typical. But the real question is: Did you have to feel upset?

Over the next few weeks I’m going to look at the core of every persons ultimate desire in life: Happiness. You could argue that being rich or successful may be the ultimate desire in life, or being close to God or deity is the ultimate desire in life, but it really all does boil down to happiness. The biggest thing that I will look at is a person’s beliefs and judgments. From there I hope to help people understand that happiness is a choice, not a reaction. This will in turn affect every aspect of your life, from stress and relationships, to finances and careers. You will be able to wake up to life for the first time, free from the delusion of emotions and free to live as you will. You will be free to be happy.